Why Weren't We Taught This at School?: The Surprisingly Simple Secret to Transforming Life's Challenges (Paperback)
Discover a simple yet profound way to understand what makes you and other people tick so you can find a way through problems in ways that work for everyone: Needs Understanding. It's based on one simple but profound idea: we are all on a quest to meet our underlying human needs - needs like belonging, knowing we matter, fun or creativity. When you start to see yourself and others in this way, you discover exciting new answers to the challenges you face. This book offers a simple but powerful toolkit for finding creative solutions and building relationships that work: - Understand the 'fingerprint needs' that drive your behaviour; - Discover 10 ways you listen that alienate other people and what to do instead; - Stop blaming yourself and others and fix what's going on underneath; - 'Walk around the mountain' to find new solutions to intractable problems; - Empower yourself to change the world. Alice Sheldon is the creator of Needs Understanding and shares it globally with individuals and organizations.
After graduating from Oxford University with an MA in Psychology and Neurophysiology, her strong interest in how we can contribute to the creation of a more inclusive world took her on a career journey which included being a secondary school teacher, a barrister, and the head of the Bar's national pro bono charity, working with everyone from homeless litigants to the Lord Chief Justice. During this time Alice came across two life-changing pieces of understanding. The first was psychotherapy, which inspired a deep learning journey. The second was Nonviolent Communication (NVC), which led her to become a Certified Trainer with the Center for Nonviolent Communication. Following this she developed a model of partnership parenting, and for a decade helped hundreds of fellow parents to create thriving relationships with their children by teaching them how to shout less and laugh more. This became the springboard for her creation of the Needs Understanding model, which brings a partnership approach into all spheres of life. Alice shares Needs Understanding globally with individuals and organizations.